Showing posts with label deontological. Show all posts
Showing posts with label deontological. Show all posts

Friday, 13 November 2015

Ethical principles


Deontological (rule-based) ethics:
l   Duty centred.
l   Rule based ethics: A universe of moral rules. For example, it is wrong to kill innocent people, it is wrong to steal, it is wrong to tell lies, etc. In a Christian perspective, the Ten Commandants.
l   Do the right thing. Do it because it's the right thing to do. Don't do wrong things. Avoid them because they are wrong.
l   You can't justify an action by showing that it produced good consequences, which is why it's sometimes called 'non-Consequentialist'.
l   Christian ethics insists that even some acts that fail are good.
n   For example, it is better to have loved and to have lost than not to have loved at all. The Christian ethics insists that it is good to work against bigotry and racism, even if one fails.
l   Should do the right thing, even if that produces more harm (or less good) than doing the wrong thing.
n   For example, the philosopher Kant thought that it would be wrong to tell a lie in order to save a friend from a murderer.
l   This is so because moral actions that reflect God’s nature are good whether they are successful or not.[1]
l   Strengths:
n   Emphasises the value of every human being
n   says some acts are always wrong
n   provides 'certainty'
n   deals with intentions and motives
l   Weaknesses:
n   Absolutist and legalistic, like the Pharisees
n   Because duty-based ethics is not interested in the results it can lead to courses of action that produce a reduction in the overall happiness of the world.
n   hard to reconcile conflicting duties

Teleological (consequentialist) ethics:
l   Whether the action is right or wrong is determined by its good or bad consequences.[2]  
l   The more good consequences an act produces, the better or more right that act
l   Ethical egoism: The individual believes the consequences of the conduct determine whether it is right or wrong. It is right if it produces good consequences, but the good must be in that individual’s self-interest.[3]
l   Utilitarianism: the greatest good of the greatest number.[4]
l   Classical utilitarianism: Seeks the greatest good for the greatest number, where the good is happiness or pleasure. Politicians often speak as utilitarians, with their claims to seek the good of the whole nation.[5]
l   Act utilitarianism: A particular action is morally good only if it produces more overall good than any alternative action. For example, it may be that in a given situation a government may decide that vocal dissident should be shot. The result may be a settled country in which disharmony and violence are significantly reduced and people feel more secure and able to enjoy a more fulfilling way of life. We may conclude that if the end result is the greater happiness of the greater number, then the deaths were morally justified. One of the arguments used by the Nazis to justify their anti-Semitism was the claim that the Jews were the cause of much of the country’s economic problem.[6]
l   Rule utilitarianism: Whether acts are good or bad depends on moral rules. Moral rules are chosen solely on the basis of their consequences. An action is right as if it conforms to a rule that leads to the greatest good. For example, when Jesus was talking to his disciples about love for our enemies, he gave the Golden Rule, ‘do to others as you would have them do to you’ (Luke 6:31). It could be part of a rule utilitarian approach to ethics, and we could claim that such a policy is a good rule to follow because it leads to peace and harmony. However, if we read it in the correct context in which Jesus spoke the words, they are clearly part of a way of love that does not seek returns and desirable ends. It is a good example of the difference between the two uses of rules.[7]
l   Strengths:
n   It seems easy to understand and to be based on common sense.
n   Act utilitarianism: Flexible and can take account of any set of circumstances, however exceptional.
n   Rule utilitarianism: Practical and efficient. Rule utilitarianism gets round the practical problems of act utilitarianism because the hard work has been done in deriving the rules; individuals don't generally have to carry out difficult research before they can take action.
l   Weaknesses:
n   Future consequences are difficult to predict.
n   Measuring and comparing the 'goodness' of consequences is very difficult.
n   It is easy to bias in favour of particular groups.
n   It can be inconsistent with human rights. For example, a billionaire needs an organ transplant. He says that if he is given the next suitable organ he will fund 1000 hip-replacements a year for 10 years. Giving him the next available organ means Mr X, who was top of the list, will die - but it also means that thousands of people will be very happy with their new hips.
n   It ignores things we regard as ethically relevant. Results-based ethics is only interested in the consequences of an act so it ignores the intentions and character of the person doing the act.
n   The fairness of the consequences are not directly relevant.
l   An interesting point for discussion: David’s adultery with Bathsheba eventually resulted in the birth of Jesus as a consequence. This is an example of a good consequence resulting from a wrong action!

Ontological (virtue) ethics:
l   A right act is the action a virtuous person would do in the same circumstances. It’s the sort of characteristics and behaviours a good person will seek to achieve.
l   Focuses on the character of the agent rather than on the nature or consequences of the act (or omission) itself.
l   Philosopher Alasdair MacIntyre proposed three questions as being at the heart of moral thinking:
n   Who am I?
n   Who ought I to become?
n   How ought I to get there?
l   Traditional list of cardinal virtues:
n   Prudence: also described as wisdom, the ability to judge between actions with regard to appropriate actions at a given time.
n   Justice: also considered as fairness, the most extensive and most important virtue.
n   Fortitude/Bravery/Courage: also named fortitude, forbearance, strength, endurance, and the ability to confront fear, uncertainty, and intimidation.
n   Temperance: also known as restraint, the practice of self-control, abstention, and moderation tempering the appetite.
l   Modern theologian James F Keenan suggests: Justice (treat all human beings equally), Fidelity (we treat people closer to us with special care), Self-care (we each have a unique responsibility to care for ourselves, affectively, mentally, physically, spiritually), Prudence (must always look for opportunities to acquire more of the other three virtues).
l   Strengths:
n   It's a useful theory since human beings are often more interested in assessing the character of another person than they are in assessing the goodness or badness of a particular action.
l   Weaknesses:
n   It doesn't provide clear guidance on what to do in moral dilemmas.
n   There is no general agreement on what the virtues are and any list of virtues will be relative to the culture in which it is being drawn up. Therefore I think a Christian should try and strive for the character of Christ as described in the bible and inspired by the Spirit in this case.

Situationism:
l   Right and wrong depend upon the situation.
l   Located between the extremes of legalism (having a law for everything) and antinomianism (having no laws).
l   There are no universal moral rules or rights - each case is unique and deserves a unique solution.
l   Rejects 'prefabricated decisions and prescriptive rules'. It teaches that ethical decisions should follow flexible guidelines rather than absolute rules, and be taken on a case by case basis.
l   Approaches ethical problems with some general moral principles rather than a rigorous set of ethical laws and is prepared to give up even those principles if doing so will lead to a greater good.
l   The elements of situation ethics were described by Joseph Fletcher, its leading modern proponent, originally devised in a Christian context: There is one absolute law: the law of love.[8] "Love thy neighbour." Within the framework of this absolute norm of love, everything else is pragmatic, relativist, positivist, and personalistic.
n   Pragmatism: An action someone makes should be judged according to the love influenced in it, so the user must always ask: what is the most loving thing to do? For example, war may not - to a situationist - be considered the most 'loving' thing and so many are quick to deem it as morally wrong.
n   Relativism: Points of view have no absolute truth or validity. Approaching every situation with a relative mindset and thus opposing legalistic approaches - avoid words such as 'never', 'complete' and 'perfect'.
n   Positivism: The form of empiricism that all knowledge regarding matters of fact is based on the “positive” data of perceptual experience. In Christian thought, the supremacy of Christian love is established by the decision to say “yes” to the faith claim that “God is love”. It rests on a fundamental value judgment which cannot be rationally proved. The most important choice of all in the teachings in 1 John 4:7-12 is "let us love one another because love is from God".
n   Personalism: Putting people in first place. Whereas the legalist thinks people should work to laws, the situational ethicist believes that laws are for the benefit of the people. This forces the user to ask 'who is to be helped?' instead of 'what is the law', stressing the importance of people before laws.
l   A form of consequentialism, though distinct from utilitarianism in that the latter's aim is "the greatest good for the greatest number", while situational ethics focuses on creating the greatest amount of love.
l   Eg. Moral dilemma: lying to save Jews from Nazi death camps. Lying is sometimes right, there is only one universal moral law, love is the only absolute. Lying may be the loving thing to do. In fact, lying to save a life is the loving thing to do.
l   Strengths:
n   Personal: sensitive to the circumstances, context, etc. Avoids the logical detached impersonal ways of thinking that some people think are overemphasised in ethics.
n   Based on doing good
l   Weaknesses:
n   Excludes most universal moral truths: removes any possibility of satisfying human needs for a useful ethical framework for human behaviour.
n   It is not clear what ‘love’ means: the notion of love is vague and can be interpreted in many ways.
n   Can’t produce consistent results: as it procures a lack of consistency from one situation to the next.
n   It may approve of ‘evil’ acts: it teachings that particular types of action don’t have an inherent value, whether they are good or bad depends on the eventual result.

Ethical positions:
l   Two broad classes
n   Those that believe in binding ethical rules
u  Universally binding ethical laws: Absolutism
l   Unqualified absolutism
l   Conflicting absolutism
l   Graded absolutism
u  Generally binding laws: Generalism (eg. utilitarianism)
n   Those that do not believe in binding ethical rules: Antinomianism (eg. hedonism, existentialism, scepticism, nihilism).
l   Generalism: there are some general laws but no absolute ones.
l   Unqualified absolutism: believes in many absolute laws that never conflict.[9] Though it is no doubt true that moral conflicts are not God’s ideal, it is also a fact that this is not an ideal world. It must find a morally acceptable way to preserve absolutes while honestly and adequately providing an answer for every moral situation.[10] Whether or not one should ever lie to save a life: unqualified absolutist answer is ‘no’! The trap with this in a Christian life is that we can become too legalistic!
l   Conflicting absolutism: contends there are many absolute normal that sometimes conflict, and we are obligated to do the lesser evil.[11] It has the merit of retaining absolutes and yet being realistic about the fallen world in which we live. However, it does not appear to have successfully defended itself against either the moral or the Christological charges levelled against it. It seems morally absurd to say that there is a moral duty to sin or to blame someone for what is unavoidable.[12]
l   Graded absolutism: holds that many absolute laws sometimes conflict, and we are responsible for obeying the higher law.[13] Moral laws are absolute in their source; absolute in their own sphere, where there is no conflict; and absolute in their order of priority when there is a conflict. In contrast to nonconflicting absolutism, graded absolutism believes that there are real moral conflicts. But in distinction from conflicting absolutism, it holds that in these circumstances one is not culpable for subordinating the lower duty to the higher duty.[14]

Natural law:
l   There are ways of behaving that apply to all human beings, irrespective of their backgrounds and upbringing.
l   A morality based on the nature of things or on the nature of people. God has made the world and us in it so that some things are good and right for us and other things are harmful and wrong. What is bad tends to harm us, while what is good helps us to flourish.
l   It is the use of human reason to analyse human nature to deduce binding rules of moral behaviour.
l   Natural law transcends national laws in its universal application.
l   Natural law is known apart from any religious teaching, or divine revelation. It is accessible to human beings through reflection on their humanity. Natural law is an ethical idea that is common to Christians and non-Christians alike.[15]

Christ and Culture:
l   Christ against Culture (opposition). For the exclusive Christian, history is the story of a rising church or Christian culture and a dying pagan civilization. Christians in this mode see the world outside the church as hopelessly corrupted by sin. The kingdom of God comes to supersede it—currently in the purity of the church, and ultimately in the messianic kingdom. God calls Christians to "come out from among them and be ye separate" in communities of holiness. Loyalty to Christ and the church entails a rejection of culture and society.
l   Christ of Culture (agreement). For the cultural Christian, history is the story of the Spirit’s encounter with nature. Sometimes this attitude lapsed into nationalism that has virtually merged American patriotism with the cause of Christ.
l   Christ above Culture. All that is good in human culture is a gift from God. For the synthesist, history is a period of preparation under law, reason, gospel, and church for an ultimate communion of the soul with God.
l   Christ and Culture in Paradox (tension). We are “in the world but not of the world” and must be careful not to estrange ourselves from the world, but at the same time not to embrace it either. In short, we are citizens of two worlds that are often at odds with each other. Two cities or two kingdom view as the rule of thumb for Christian attitudes toward mainstream culture. For the dualist, history is the time of struggle between faith and unbelief, a period between the giving of the promise of life and its fulfillment.
l   Christ Transforming Culture (transformation/reformation). Church influencing culture. For the conversionist, history is the story of God’s mighty deeds and humanity’s response to them. Conversionists live somewhat less “between the times” and somewhat more in the divine “now” than do the followers listed above. Eternity, to the conversionist, focuses less on the action of God before time or life with God after time, and more on the presence of God in time. Hence the conversionist is more concerned with the divine possibility of a present renewal than with conservation of what has been given in creation or preparing for what will be given in a final redemption.
l   Postscript: encouraging readers to not settle on one of these views to the exclusion of the others. No “Christian answer” exists that applies definitively for all time, since faith is “fragmentary,” and we do not have “the same fragments of faith”

Personal thoughts:
Each of these ethical approaches have some aspects which are helpful for living a Christian life, and some aspects which are unhelpful. There isn’t one particular approach which is perfect. Even the deontological/principle based approach, which is probably the most Christian of all approaches, is fallible to its absolutism because we live in an imperfect fallen world, which makes it impossible to live out all the biblical commandments without one principle conflicting another at times. Therefore, as Christians, when we make ethical decisions, I believe we cannot look at only one approach in isolation. We have to think through all of these approaches.

Resources:
Wikipedia
Notes made from listening to Miyon Chung’s lectures in Christian Ethics PE501



[1] Geisler, Christian Ethics, 17.
[2] Brown, Crash Course, 8, 11.
[3] Brown, Crash Course, 11.
[4] Brown, Crash Course, 34.
[5] Brown, Crash Course, 36.
[6] Brown, Crash Course, 38.
[7] Brown, Crash Course, 39.
[8] Geisler, Christian Ethics, 35.
[9] Geisler, Christian Ethics, 18.
[10] Geisler, Christian Ethics, 81.
[11] Geisler, Christian Ethics, 18.
[12] Geisler, Christian Ethics, 95.
[13] Geisler, Christian Ethics, 19.
[14] Geisler, Christian Ethics, 115.
[15] Brown, Crash Course, 78.

Monday, 12 October 2015

Fidelity, when a marriage has broken down

This essay seeks to set out a Christian ethical position on fidelity, when a marriage has broken down. In examining the definition and nature of marriage and fidelity, it is quite clear that the scriptural definition of marriage is a monogamous union of a male and female in a lifelong commitment to one another which is to be characterised by fidelity. The nature of this union is best described as a covenantal union under the standards of the divine law. Then, examining ethical theories including deontological, teleological, ontological and situational ethics, I came to the conclusion one should still maintain fidelity in a marriage that has broken down. The only exception to this is where there is complete physical or psychological destruction of a person, such as the situation of domestic violence, as this kind of marriage no longer fulfils any of the purposes it was meant to serve.


This essay seeks to set out a Christian ethical position on fidelity, when a marriage has broken down. I will first examine the definition and nature of marriage and fidelity. Then I will explore various positions for and against fidelity when a marriage has broken down using ethical theories including deontological, teleological ontological and situational ethics before I draw my own conclusion. 


Genesis say that “God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them (1:27)”, as “it is not good for the man to be alone (2:18)”, and “a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh (2:24). Westermann[1] believes this is saying that human beings are to live in community. Every theoretical and institutional separation of man and woman can endanger the very existence of humanity. In fact, the “one flesh” term points to the basic power of love between man and woman as “spiritual unity”[2], where the man enters into lasting community with his wife because of his love for her. This does not mean a social state but a situation of fidelity.[3] Furthermore, male and female are created in God’s image, so Gregory of Nyssa believes “one who is made in the image of God has the task of becoming who he is”.[4] Matthew19:6 emphasises the sanctity of marriage in community where the marital bond is that “they are no longer two, but one… what God has joined together, let man not separate.”[5] Therefore, God hates divorce because it tears apart what should be considered a permanent union.[6] Overall, these verses illustrates that marriage involves a monogamous union of a male and female in a lifelong commitment to one another which is to be characterised by fidelity.[7]


The key phrase in Matthew19:6 is “what God has joined together” because humans can then and now join themselves with various others outside the will of God. In early Judaism there was no marriage certificate from the state, marriage in a sacred building, and marriage by official clergy. In other words, the usual tests of what legally makes a marriage in today’s world did not apply then. For Jesus, the main question was whether they were joined together by God, and if so, then the ruling is no divorce.[8] Köstenberger and Jones further elaborates that there are three basic views on the nature of marriage: Marriage as a sacrament, marriage as a contract, and marriage as a covenant.[9] The prerequisite for a Christian marriage is not the “sacramental blessing” of the institutionalised church, but becoming “new creatures” in Christ (2Corinthians 5:17).[10] They also believe that the contractual model is reductionist because although an agreement is made between a man and woman in marriage, this does not cover the whole of what marriage is. Furthermore, if one spouse commits a grievous enough sin to break the contract, the partner is free to dissolve the union, so it provides an extremely weak basis for the permanence of marriage. They believe that the covenantal model best describes marriage because it roots marriage in the standards of divine law rather than church law or civil law.[11] Implications of a covenant view of marriage include the permanence, sacredness, intimacy, mutuality and exclusiveness of marriage.[12] 


Deontological/Principle ethics contends that there are inherent goods, rights, wrongs, and duties in life, regardless of what the consequences might be.[13] The classical Christian position on sexual behaviour is often summed up through two principles: purity before marriage and fidelity within marriage. We can see from the above discussions that there is clear scriptural basis for these principles. Other clear-cut scriptural commands are: “You shall not commit adultery (Exodus 20:14)”, “Abstain from fornication (Acts 15:20)” and “The marriage bed should be kept pure (Hebrews 13:4)”. Adultery breaks three of the Ten Commandments.[14] These all points to “sexual intercourse outside of the marital covenant is intrinsically wrong, and sex within the marital covenant is a moral good”.[15] However, proponents of the open marriage concept point to a perceived internal inconsistency within the biblical documents themselves, claiming that people of God practiced a double standard, at least in the Old Testament (OT) era.[16] However, they fail to differentiate what arose in the ancient society and what the OT presents as the intention of the Creator. The Genesis creation narratives must be given central emphasis. OT Laws designed to govern sexual conduct do not present the ideal, but are attempts to mitigate the evil, unjust effects of human failure to follow that ideal. Secondly, the New Testament (NT), as reflecting and expanding the sexual ethic of the OT, must be given priority over the practices of the ancient society.[17] Although there is no explicit condemnation of these practices is found in the OT[18], they actually highlight the commitment of the biblical documents as a whole to the ideal of the permanent, monogamous relationship between male and female as the foundational context for the expression of human sexuality.[19] 


We can also look at fidelity from a teleological/consequentialist ethics perspective, where we make moral judgment on the basis of the consequences that accrue from their actions. Then we get the question, “consequences for whom?” If it is for the individual moral actor, then this is called “ethical egoism”.[20] Epicurus takes a hedonist view that pleasure was the highest good of an individual and the primary factor in our moral actions.[21] Concerning sexual ethics, Russell[22] believed that traditional morality was harmful to the well-being of individuals. Another author says, “Having sex makes you feel good, and increasing your erotic sophistication improves your self-esteem.” Interestingly, Christian sexual ethics can also be defended on the grounds of self-interest. For example, one might get hurt emotionally, get pregnant or acquire sexually transmitted disease through casual sex, and thus it is in their best interest to keep sex linked to the marital bond.[23] In fact, it is often said that the Bible is “a user’s manual for how to live life”, so from an eternal perspective I believe following God’s commands are actually in our best interest.[24] Some may see an “open marriage” as a solution to a marriage that has broken down. However, the inclusion of a third party destroys the spouse’s self-esteem and produces feelings of guilt. It also undercuts trust and openness between the marital partners.[25]


Utilitarianism is the more predominant form of consequentialism where the decision is based on the greatest good for the greatest number of people. Singer[26] believes that “casual sexual intercourse may be wrong when it leads to the existence of children who cannot be adequately cared for, and not wrong when, because of the existence of effective contraception, it does not lead to reproduction at all.” However, in the case of marriage breakdown, there may already be children. Genesis 1:28 is a command to procreate. The family remains the primary training ground for the future citizens of the land, who are the future participants in the society.[27] Studies confirm the importance of stable marriages to the development of children[28], as children learn primary attitudes about fidelity and relationship from their parents, specifically from the way in which their parents treat each other.[29] Furthermore, fidelity between spouses and stable marriage relationships are crucial to fidelity in society and for this reason to social well-being, because the manner in which one relates to one’s spouse will quite naturally shape the way a person relates to others in the wider social life beyond marriage.[30] Therefore, marriage serves as an agent of expansion of the church through the influence of the believer in the home where the spouse and children are influenced.[31] Marriage is also a vehicle for the outreach mission of the church when godly families influence the wider society.[32] All societies have had some interest in limiting sexual behaviour even if their norms were wide of the mark of Christian ethics.[33] Unwin[34] found that sexual restraint was essential to cultural flourishing. Cultures without monogamy and sexual restraint before and during marriage inevitably fell into cultural and societal decline. He found no societies in history that were exceptions to these findings.


Although there is a command to procreate, the completion of the chid-rearing function does not signal the end of the marriage bond, and the bond is present even when no children are produced.[35] So there is much more to marriage than procreation. Ontological/character ethics is not about “what should I do?” but “what should I be?” Character ethicists contend that ethics is less about what we do and more about who we are.[36] Marriage can be a sanctifying experience. None of us enters marriage as fully mature persons, but we are challenged to grow in the context of this intense relationship.[37] According to the Australian Institute of Family Studies, communication problems is the most commonly perceived reason for divorce amongst divorced couples.[38] There is no such thing as a completely compatible couple so conflict will be an inevitable part of a relationship as intimate as marriage. Conflict is the fertiliser of life. To deny conflict is to deny an opportunity to grow. The marriage relationship becomes a crucible in which conflicts can heat things up to the breaking point or can be a refining process of transforming growth In other words, conflict can either make or break the marriage. Good marriages are those where conflict are dealt with in a manner that facilitates the growth of the relationship.[39] Good communication skills are essential when dealing with conflicts, and such skills can be developed. Therefore, couples should persevere with marriage even when it seems to be breaking down.


Deddo points out that the particular pattern of right relationship is most fully and concretely revealed in the relationships between Jesus, the Father and Holy Spirit depicted in the New Testament.[40] God is a unity of three persons who share the one divine nature but who are distinct from each other. This aspect of the Trinitarian life of God is reflected in marriage itself.[41] Balswick believes God’s intention for marriage is that two spouses become one through a mutual, reciprocating process in which interdependence develops through the coexistence of distinction and unity in relationship.[42] Weaving two lives together into a threefold cord with Christ at the centre is the ultimate goal of differentiated unity. Marriage is made up of two flawed spouses who must negotiate their relationship in a broken world. “Brokenness is not the opposite of wholeness, but the means toward it.” Knowing most of us are far from the ideal moves us to humility. While God’s love is never emptied in the giving, spousal love is bound to fail and disappoint. Our humanness keeps us ever so humble and in continuous need of God’s grace and strength.[43] Spouses are transformed into a unity that transcends what either spouse can be alone.[44]


When spouses live according to the covenant principle, “to love and be loved,” the grace principle, “to forgive and be forgiven,” the empowerment principle, to “serve and be served” through mutual servanthood, and the intimacy principle, “to know and be known,” they will reap rich rewards of following God’s more excellent ways.[45] Grenz observes that surrendering one’s personal will to the will of God places Christ at the centre of each spouse’s identity. As the Spirit enters a person, the self becomes less self-centred and more Christ-centred. “He must increase and I must decrease (John 3:30)”. Therefore he believes the primary meaning of marriage is found in its function as a spiritual metaphor: The exclusive love found within the Trinity and the exclusive, holy nature of God’s love for creation are to be reflected in the exclusive love shared by husband and wife.[46]


Proponents of the concept of “open marriage” work from the premise that no individual can completely to fulfil all the needs of one’s spouse so one should not look to their spouse as the total fulfilment of one’s physical, emotional, and even sexual needs. Proponents of this position advocate sacrificing sexual exclusiveness within marriage for the sake of marital permanence, for, it is assumed, both cannot be maintained together. Biblically speaking, it is true that no person can ever hope to be the source of total fulfilment for another, for only God is our final resting place.[47] Even the best marriage can offer only a partial reflection of the glorious future state.[48] In fact, we see from 1Corinthians6:12-20 that some men within the early Christian community argue that they had the right to go to prostitutes because, being people of the Spirit has moved them to a higher plane, the realm of spirit, where they are unaffected by behaviour that has merely to do with the body.[49]


Dualisms of this type are quite foreign to the basically holistic or unitary anthropology developed by the ancient Hebrews.[50] Paul’s response is a theological affirmation that human body is a good thing, and that the believer’s body is also to be understood as a temple. This is an argument against dualism.[51] When something holy is joined to what is unholy, the shrine becomes desecrated and made unfit for the Holy Spirit.[52] When one has sex with a “prostitute”, what God intends to be a means of sharing one’s life with another is dehumanised into a momentary coupling for the sole purpose of sexual release. It leaves a legacy of alienation and guilt rather than loving intimacy and mutual commitment.[53] Hettlinger[54] concludes, “There can be no question that recreational sex is always in danger of treating people as merely convenient objects for pleasure.” 


Another aspect of personal theology revealed through the choice of fidelity or infidelity is related to a person’s understanding concerning the nature of the divine reality. To practice infidelity is to imply that ultimate reality is capricious. It asserts that the universe is characterised fundamentally by unfaithfulness and the world is ultimately disorderly and untrustworthy. This connection between sexual infidelity and personal perceptions of the nature of ultimate reality is reflected in the link made in the OT biblical materials between idolatry and sexual unfaithfulness, like the marital relationship between Yahweh and Israel. In contrast to promiscuity, sexual fidelity affirms the eternal faithfulness of God. For this reason the covenant between male and female in the fellowship of marriage is analogous to the relationship between Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:22-23).[55] In the covenant of marriage our total being is to exude trustworthiness: words, actions, emotions, and character. Such fidelity to the one spouse is a reflection of our worship to the one God as well as our overall trustworthiness in life, for as whole creatures what happens in one dimension reflects and impacts what happens in other dimensions of our lives.[56]


Some argue that in Matthew19:8 Jesus says Moses permitted divorce. Lifetime marriage is God’s ideal, but the ideal is not always achievable as we live in a fallen world and sometimes we must do the next best thing. Jesus recognised the difference between the ideal and the real when he distinguished between God’s command not to divorce and his permission of divorce in the OT.[57] Witherington[58] notes that this ruling took into account human fallenness and is not meant to licence divorce. Jesus states that “I tell that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness (porneia) and marries another woman, commits adultery.[59] Farley identifies three situations where a commitment no longer obligates: 1) When the commitment becomes impossible to keep; 2) it no longer fulfils any of the purposes it was meant to serve; 3) another obligation comes in conflict with the first obligation, and the second is judged to override the first.[60] From a situational ethics perspective, situations where the commitment can be impossible to keep could be irremediable and irreconcilable rupture in a relationship, utter helplessness in the face of violence, or inability to go on in a relationship that threatens one’s very identity as a person.[61] Situations where another obligation conflicts with and takes priority over the commitment to marriage include obligations such as fundamental obligations to God, to children, to society, even to one’s spouse, because no relationship should be sustained that entails the complete physical or psychological destruction of a person, including oneself.[62] All of the above can occur in the case of domestic violence.


Having done a detailed exploration into the various ethical positions on fidelity when a marriage has broken down, I would like to summarise my findings. Looking at Genesis1&2 and Matthew19:6, it is clear that marriage involves a monogamous union of a male and female in a lifelong commitment to one another which is to be characterised by fidelity. There is a special emphasis on “what God has joined together”, because humans can then and now join themselves with various others quite outside the will of God. If the couple has been joined by the will of God, then the ruling is no divorce, as the nature of this union is a covenantal union under the standards of the divine law rather than church law or civil law. From a principle ethics perspective, the classical Christian position on sexual behaviour is often summed up through two principles: purity before marriage and fidelity within marriage. There is clear scriptural basis commanding this, and to commit adultery breaks three of the Ten Commandments. Supporters of open marriages focuses on the claim that people of God practiced a double standard, at least in the OT era. However, they fail to differentiate what arose in the ancient society and what the OT presents as the intention of the Creator. The commands in the NT, which actually highlights fidelity in marriage, must be given priority over the practices of the ancient society.


Proponents of open marriages argue that no individual can completely to fulfil all the needs of one’s spouse and advocate sacrificing sexual exclusiveness within marriage for the sake of marital permanence. However, from a consequentialist ethics perspective, fidelity in a marriage that has broken down serves in the couple’s best interest because on a personal level, sex outside of marriage can lead to further emotional pain, unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases, and on a societal level, it adversely impacts the development of children and the way a person relates to others in the wider social life beyond marriage. From a character ethics perspective, maintaining fidelity in a broken marriage helps develop character and is a display of virtue. Statistically, most marriages break down because of communication problems, which is inevitable due to our fallen nature. This is why a Trinitarian view to marriage where two lives are weaved together into a threefold cord with Christ at the centre is so critical in making marriage a sanctifying experience. Conflicts provide opportunities to grow, which is why couples should persevere in marriages that seems to be breaking down.


Supporters of dualistic anthropology argue that they had the right to go to prostitutes because, being people of the Spirit has moved them to a higher plane, the realm of spirit, where they are unaffected by behaviour that has merely to do with the body. However, dualisms of this type are quite foreign to the basically holistic anthropology developed by the ancient Hebrews. To practice infidelity not only involves dehumanising people for the sole purpose of sexual release, but also implies that ultimate reality is capricious as it asserts that the world is ultimately disorderly and untrustworthy. The only exception to maintaining fidelity in a marriage breakdown I can find is one which entails the complete physical or psychological destruction of a person, such as the situation of domestic violence, as this kind of marriage no longer fulfils any of the purposes it was meant to serve.




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[1] Claus Westermann, Genesis 1-11: A commentary (Minneapolis: Ausburg Publishing House, 1984), 160.
[2] Westermann, Genesis 1-11, 233.
Westermann believes neither the explanation of “one flesh” as sexual intercourse or the child in which man and woman become one flesh are correct. This passage is talking about the community of man and woman rather than marriage as an institution for the begetting of descendants. Sexual intercourse is too one sided as the Hebrew describes human existence as a whole under the aspect of corporality.
[3] Westermann, Genesis 1-11, 234.
[4] Andrew Louth, Ancient Christian Commentary on Scripture: Genesis 1-11 (Downer’s Grove: Intervarsity Press, 2001), 35.
[5] Stanley J. Grenz, Sexual Ethics: An Evangelical Perspective (Louisville: Westminister John Knox Press, 1990), 58.
[6] Michael J. Wilkins, The NIV Application Commentary: Matthew (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2004), 643.
[7] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 58.
[8] Ben III Witherington, Matthew (Macon: Smyth & Helwys Publishing, 2006), 362.
[9] Andreas J. Köstenberger and David W. Jones, God, Marriage & Family: Rebuilding the Biblical Foundation (Wheaton: Crossway Books, 2004), 81.
[10] Köstenberger and Jones, God, Marriage & Family, 82-83. Therefore the sacramental model is largely a product of patristic and medieval mystical thought.
[11] Köstenberger and Jones, God, Marriage & Family, 85-86. divine law= authoritative divine revelation found in the Scripture itself.
[12] Köstenberger and Jones, God, Marriage & Family, 89-90.
[13] Dennis P. Hollinger, The Meaning of Sex: Christian Ethics and the Moral Life (Grand Rapids: Baker Academic, 2009), 30.
[14] Hollinger, The Meaning of Sex, 168. Adultery breaks: thou shall not commit adultery, thou not lie, thou shall not covet your neighbour’s wife. (Exodus 20:14-17).
[15] Hollinger, The Meaning of Sex, 30.
[16] Joseph Fletcher, Situation Ethics: The New Morality (Philadelphia: Westminster, 1966), 108.
[17] Fletcher, Situation Ethics, 109.
[18] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 99.
[19] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 101.
[20] Hollinger, The Meaning of Sex, 24. Here, there’s no right or wrong, for morality is grounded and determined purely by weighing the consequences of actions.
[21] Hollinger, The Meaning of Sex, 25.
[22] Bertrand Russell, Marriage and Morals (New York: Liveright, 1957), 140. As “Love can only flourish only as long as it is free and spontaneous; it tends to be killed by the thought that it is a duty.”
[23] Hollinger, The Meaning of Sex, 27.
[24] Hollinger, The Meaning of Sex, 29. In open marriages, “humans are then functionally reduced to their material impulses that ultimately seek pleasure, happiness, or their own interests. Such a framework can hardly lead us to moral goodness in sex, for we are dealing with a powerful physical drive in which the line between genuine happiness and hormones gets quite blurred among finite, fallen creatures”.
[25] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 106.
[26] Peter Singer, Writing on an Ethical Life (New York: Ecco, 2000), 16.
[27] Fletcher, Situation Ethics, 115.
[28] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 68.
[29] Fletcher, Situation Ethics, 115.
[30] Fletcher, Situation Ethics, 115. If a person develops a pattern of infidelity in the marriage bond, he or she may likewise practice unfaithfulness in other areas of social life.
[31] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 60.
[32] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 60.
[33] Hollinger, The Meaning of Sex, 19.
[34] J.D. Unwin, Sex and Culture (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 1934), 431.
[35] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 68. In Song of Songs, the longest presentation of the beauty of martial love in the bible, there’s no mention of procreation in its celebration of sexual relations.
[36] Hollinger, The Meaning of Sex, 38.
[37] Jack O. Balswick, and Judith K. Balswick, A Model for Marriage: Covenant, Grace, Empowerment and Intimacy (Downers Grove: IVP Academic, 2006), 107.
[38] Ilene Wolcott and Jody Hughes, “Towards Understanding the Reasons for Divorce,” Australian Institute of Family Studies, 20 (1999): 8. Accessed September 12, 2015. http://www.aifs.gov.au/institute/pubs/WP20.html.
[39] Balswick and Balswick, A Model for Marriage, 118. In fact, if a couple claims never to have conflicts, we can only make one of several assumptions: they haven’t been married very long; they don’t talk to each other very much; one spouse has all the power and the other has none; or they are in denial.
[40] Balswick and Balswick, A Model for Marriage, 27.
[41] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 65.
[42] Balswick and Balswick, A Model for Marriage, 33.
[43] Balswick and Balswick, A Model for Marriage, 45. And though one might prevail against another, two will withstand one. A threefold cord is not quickly broken (Ecclesiastes 4:12).
[44] Balswick and Balswick, A Model for Marriage, 33.
[45] Balswick and Balswick, A Model for Marriage, 38.
[46] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 70.
[47] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 104.
[48] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 105.
[49] Gordon D. Fee, The New International Commentary on the New Testament: The First Epistle to the Corinthians (Grand Rapids: William B. Eerdman’s Publishing Company, 2014), 276.
[50] Grenz, Sexual Ethics, 79. This indulgent attitude is based on a dualistic anthropology that divides the human person into two parts, body and soul, which puts forth the soul as the focus of the “real” person and reduces the body to being at best the vehicle for the expression of the “true” person.
[51] Fee, The First Epistle to the Corinthians, 277.
[52] David E. Garland, 1 Corinthians: Baker Exegetical Commentary on the New Testament (Grand Rapids: Baker Academic, 2003), 235.
[53] Garland, 1 Corinthians, 237.
[54] Richard Hettlinger, Sex Isn’t That Simple (New York: Seabury, 1974), 80.
[55] Fletcher, Situation Ethics, 114.
[56] Hollinger, The Meaning of Sex, 167.
[57] Norman L. Geisler, Christian Ethics: Contemporary Issues & Options (Grand Rapids: Baker Academic, 2010), 308.
[58] Witherington, Matthew, 362.
[59] Witherington, Matthew, 363. The semantic range of porneia includes whatever intentionally divides the marital relationship, possibly including, but not limited to, related sexual sins such as incest, homonsexuality, prostitution, molestation, or indecent exposure.
[60] Farley, Just Love, 305.
[61] Farley, Just Love, 306. A marriage commitment which has completely lost its purpose is one where it becomes a threat to the very love it is to serve.
[62] Farley, Just Love, 307.