Thursday, 23 May 2019

The person-centred approach in chaplaincy




Abstract:
This essay discusses how the person-centred approach informs a chaplain’s response to mental health issues in hospital patients. “Person-centred” is a broad term, but the essence of the person-centred approach is to look at people holistically as a dignified human being and identify the contextual factors affecting the person. Therefore, it is vital that chaplains have a good background knowledge about the types of mental health issues hospital patients face. When providing person-centred care, the visit is “to the patient, for the patient” and “it’s not about me.” Interestingly, to practice the person-centred approach, one needs a high degree of self-awareness and good self-care. A person-centred chaplain do not impose his/her theology onto others but instead tries to learn about who God is for the person. Meanwhile, chaplains must remain God-centred because it is not possible to continue in crisis chaplaincy if one do not regularly stop to revive spiritually.




This essay discusses how the person-centred approach informs a chaplain’s response to mental health issues in hospital patients. Firstly, I will discuss the various definitions people have given to the term “person-centred.” Secondly, the types of mental health issues hospital patients face. Thirdly, some ways of providing person-centred care to hospital patients. Fourthly, the importance of self-awareness and self-care when providing person-centred care to others. Finally, I will discuss theological issues that arise in providing person-centred care to hospital patients.

“Person-centred” is a very broad term. In the hospital setting, the term “patient-centred” is commonly used to mean a similar thing, even though some people find the term too medical and narrow in scope. Other commonly adopted terms describing person-centredness include: patient-and-family-centred, relationship-centred, user-centred, client-centred, personalised, and individualised.[1] Regardless of the term used, person-centred care in the hospital setting has been an evolving concept.[2] In 1969, Edith Balint originally described person-centred care as “understanding the patient as a unique human being.”[3] Since then, there have been many other conceptualisations of person-centred care.[4] The person-centred approach looks at people holistically.[5] It is unlike the traditional biomedical model, where conditions are “treated as single discrete entities with illnesses” and “ascribed to a certain part of the patient’s body” such as the liver.[6] Professionals who view individuals as objects to be dissected, diagnosed and manipulated cannot be person-centred.[7] People live life as an embodied person, so it may be impossible for a patient to grasp the distinction between body and mind.[8] If we view others as a dignified human being, we do not do things “to” or “for” them, but we “walk alongside” them and do things “with” them.[9] Rather than providing “one size fits all” solutions, being person-centred involves meeting people’s needs in a manner that is best for them.[10] This means that a person-centred chaplain looks at all the contextual factors affecting the person.[11] This includes internal personal factors such as the individual’s gender, age, values preferences, desires, lifestyle, spirituality, and external environmental factors such as the person’s family situation, social circumstances, and culture.[12]

Therefore, it is important for a person-centred chaplain to have a good background understanding on the types of mental health issues hospital patients face. In terms of the mental health status of the Australian population, the Australian National Survey of Mental Health and Wellbeing (NSMHW) 2007 data tells us that 45.5% of the total population experienced a mental health disorder at some point in their life, and 20% of Australian aged between 16-85 years experienced mental disorders in the last year, with 14.4% having had anxiety disorders, 6.2% mood disorders and 5.1% substance use disorders. The prevalence of mental disorders declines with age from 26.4% in the 16-24 years age group to around 5.9% in the 75-85 years age group.[13] While we can keep at the back of our minds that a portion of patients in the hospital may have anxiety disorders, mood disorders and substance use disorders, the mental health issues encountered in the hospital setting is very different from the general population.

The most common times people go into the hospital are: before and after surgery, when a child is born, during a medical illness, when death is imminent, during and after an emergency, and when mental health treatment is needed.[14] From my observations at Sydney Adventist Hospital (SAN), the patients tend to be very elderly. A staff in the medical ward told me it is very unusual to see patients younger than 70y.o. in their ward. Furthermore, different wards have different atmospheres. The cancer wards tend to have very distressed patients and families, the ICU tend to have highly distressed families with an unconscious or semi-conscious patient, and the birthing unit is usually a joyful place which can turn extremely horrible when something goes wrong. Most people die in healthcare settings and many of these deaths will occur as a result of diseases of the cardiorespiratory system and cancers. Therefore, a significant proportion of people whom the hospital chaplain works with are patients who are facing death, or bereaving families of patients who had just passed away.[15]

Some patients may appear sick, depressed, irritable, exhausted, and unsociable.[16] It is important for the chaplain to understand the emotions of patients and their families. Patients may feel exposed, as medical staff frequently comes in to examine them. They may feel useless, as they cannot do what they normally do.[17] As there is nothing keeping them busy, they may think a lot, eg. worrying about the hospital bills, dying, etc.[18] They may feel they are a burden on others.[19] They may feel separated from their identity, their autonomy and their community.[20] They may also see their existence threatened as many people associate hospitals with death.[21] Grieving families may experience a wide range of feelings, ranging from the negative feelings of shock, sadness, anger guilt, anxiety, helplessness, despair, and loneliness to the more positive feelings of relief, hope and acceptance.[22]

A person-centred chaplain resists the temptation to coerce the person, “take control” and “fix-it-all.”[23] Rather, being person-centred involves effective communication, where the chaplain practices active listening, views the person holistically, addresses the person’s emotions and expresses empathy. That way, the chaplain can provide respectful and compassionate care.[24] There are some things that can be learnt from Carl Rogers, the psychologist who developed the client-centred therapy. Based on his experience as a psychotherapist, he believes “it is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried.” Rogers relies upon the client for the direction of movement in the process.[25] He proposes that humans have a natural tendency to move in a positive direction,[26] “to expand, extend, become autonomous, develop,” and “mature.”[27]

Rogers believes it is important to clarify the client statement empathetically and understandingly.[28] In his interview clips with clients, I see him frequently echoing and paraphrasing back to his clients on what they have just said.[29] Rogers warns against making declarative statements to a client, as that would become an evaluation and judgment.[30] The therapist does not ask himself/herself “How do I see this?” but continually asks “How does the client see this?”[31] Rogers theorised that if a therapist can “provide a relationship based on the three core conditions of acceptance, empathetic understanding and congruence,” then positive personality change would follow.[32] Chaplains can learn from Rogers the skills of deep listening and nonjudgmental communication. However, some people believe Rogers is overly nondirective in his approach and made up a joke about how a person who is being counselled by Rogers said he wanted to commit suicide and Rogers simply echoes everything he said until that person jumps out the window and dies.[33]

However, the chaplain is not a counsellor or a psychotherapist, and patient encounters can be brief. In a routine chaplain ward round, I see the chaplain checking in on each patient in the ward he/she is covering one by one. First, the chaplain looks at the patient list and remembers the person’s name. Then the chaplain looks in from outside of the patient’s room to get some clues about the person, eg. flowers and cards. The chaplain greets the patient by the surname, introduces himself/herself, and pick up on clues as to whether the patient is keen for a longer conversation or not. It is up to the patient whether he/she wants to talk to the chaplain, and when the patient is not keen, the visit ends with the chaplain making a friendly closing statement. One of the chaplains I shadowed gave the advice to always remember, “it’s not about me,” and not to feel bad if the patient does not want to talk. After all, the visit is “to the patient, for the patient”.[34] Many times, the patients just want their heath and dignity restored, to feel cared for, and to be reassured.[35] For some patients, a short conversation with some words of encouragement is more helpful than a long conversation.  

Being person-centred does not just involve focusing on one person, but the whole family, and sometimes the chaplain can only interact with the families because the patient cannot be helped, ie. unconscious or deceased. In addition to routine ward rounds, chaplains also attend to calls made by the wards. For example, a chaplain I was shadowing got called out to attend to the highly distressed family of a patient who had a sudden reduction in his consciousness. She still tried to talk to him, and he opened his eyes briefly at one point. She spoke to the family members present with the patient, mapped out the whole genogram and worked out the family dynamics. She also communicated with the medical staff caring for this patient. In this case, the chaplain was not interacting with the individual patient, but all the people related to the patient in the hospital. Kirkindoll believes that the chaplain should try talking to the “unresponsive” patient, because he/she may still be able to hear you,[36] so I think it is good that the chaplain talked to the patient in this case.

Interestingly, many experts believe that the person-centred helper needs a high degree of self-awareness and good self-care. Rogers contends that the attitudes and beliefs held by the counsellor determines whether or not he/she is able to work with a person-centred approach.[37] Kirkindoll suggests that you can only be of help to another person in a visitation if you are known as a caring person, trustworthy in your motives, and make yourself physically and emotionally available to others. He coined three terms to describe the good helper: Firstly, having “accurate empathy,”[38] where you focus your attention on the person so he/she senses that you accurately understand their situation and care for them. Secondly, having “nonpossessive warmth,” which is the ability to suspend your own needs when counselling others, ie. “being able to respond with affection to the other person’s need rather than using the other person to meet one’s need.”[39] Thirdly, “inherent genuineness,” where the helper needs to be comfortable in his/her own personhood if he/she wants to be of help to others.[40]

Rogers found that he is more effective when he can listen acceptingly to himself and be himself, eg. to be able to realise he is angry, or that he feels rejecting towards a client, and not trying to act well when feeling ill,[41] and that the more open he is to the realities in himself and in the other person, the less he finds himself wishing to rush in to “fix things.”[42] Kirkwood describes how chaplains can do more damage than good if they do not have a high degree of self-awareness. For example, chaplains dependent on the ego boosting “highs” of conversions will find it very disappointing when the patients do not convert, and lose interest in their work. Chaplains who are highly obsessive and competitive[43] can be so concentrated on doing things right that they overlook the patients’ needs, feelings and stresses.[44] These chaplains may have a strong need for complete control over their units, and they can burn out other colleagues in the unit with their jealousy and accusations.[45]

Markwick asserts that “professionals need to bring their hidden motivations to the surface and confront the potential effects they have on their relationships with clients.”[46] Motivations of people in the helping profession vary. Some chaplains knew clearly they are called by God, while others just wanted to get away from parish responsibilities.[47] Some are just performing the duties and expectations of their occupation[48] while others have a sincere desire to support and comfort an ill patient.[49] Some people do “people-related activities” out of their own needs, ie. “the need to be needed.” Yet, the danger of this is that they can leave themselves open to manipulation.[50] For instance, they can become so focused on trying to make the patient feel good that they become out of touch with reality. However, person-centred does not mean just focusing on trying to cheer up the patient.[51] It is important to be realistic. As we identify the patient’s strengths and giving words of encouragement and hope, we also need to be honest and realistic about the difficulties he/she face.[52] Some people with low self-esteem and recognition needs may “escape” to chaplaincy because chaplains are often under minimal denominational supervision, giving them freedom to make exaggerated reports of the wonderful work they are accomplishing.[53] Others became chaplains out of gratefulness. For example, some grateful ex-patients may return to serve in the hospital because they feel an obligation to repay the blessings they received from the chaplains.[54]

Worden encourages counsellors to explore their own histories of loses. Working with the bereaved may make us aware of our own losses, especially if the loss experienced by the bereaved is similar to losses that we have sustained in our own lives. Another area where grief may get in the way is the counsellor’s own feared losses. Existential anxiety (one’s own fear of death) is another challenge.[55] Worden believes counsellors are more effective when they are aware of their own histories of losses because it can help the counsellor better understand the process of mourning, and the kinds of resources available to the bereaved. The counsellor can also identify any unfinished business that is still present from prior losses.[56] It also helps the counsellor know his/her limitations with respect to the kinds of clients and grief situation that he/she is able to deal with, and make appropriate referrals.[57]

Kirkwood also believes that knowing one’s own strengths and weaknesses is important because “a willingness to accept that we cannot minister to all people is a major criterion for a good pastoral care person.”[58] During a visit, signs of feeling uncomfortable must be recognised immediately. If that uneasy feeling cannot be dissipated, then it is unproductive to persist with the visit.[59] Worden contends that counsellors need to know their own personal limitations in terms of the number of patients they can work intimately with at any given time. They also need to know how to reach out for help and support.[60] Kirkwood warns that “person-centredness” does not mean becoming so “others-centred” that the chaplain becomes too available, because this can easily lead to burnout, and a burnt-out chaplain is not much of a help to others.[61]

Some theological issues arise when chaplains provide person-centred care in a pluralistic arena. One is the conflict between the chaplain’s theology and the patient’s theology. A person-centred chaplain do not impose his/her theology onto others but instead tries to learn about who God is for the person and how that person lived his/her theology,[62] and to “tap into it to sustain them through this crisis in their life.”[63] Sometimes standardised prayer books do not reflect what was going on for the patient and the chaplain needs the guidance of the Holy Spirit to pray a more personalised prayer.[64] However, the chaplain can affirm the patient’s belief system without denying his/her own theology. In fact, when the patient invites you to share your faith or wants to get converted, it is impossible for to remain on a “non-directive” path anymore. Another important theological issue is the importance of God-centredness even as we take a person-centred approach. Kirkwood warns that “not enough of God is dangerous as chaplains go about their tasks”[65] because “the patience required to handle being regularly called upon to deal with trauma is only possible by regularly stopping” to “spend time in spiritual revival and discipline.”[66]

To conclude, it is important for a hospital chaplain to use the person-centred approach to ministry. This approach reminds the chaplain to look at the hospital patients holistically as a dignified human being and identify the contextual factors affecting the person. However, to be a person-centred chaplain, one needs a high degree of self-awareness, especially of one’s own motivations and limitations. Being “person-centred” does not mean being so “others-centred” that the chaplain neglects his/her self-care. Theologically speaking, a person-centred chaplain do not impose his/her theology onto others but instead tries to learn about who God was for the person. The chaplain can still affirm the patient’s belief system without denying his/her own theology. Meanwhile, chaplains must remain God-centred because it is not possible to continue in crisis chaplaincy if one do not regularly stop to revive spiritually.

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Dulmen, Simone A. et al. “Supporting a person-centred approach in clinical guidelines. A position paper of the Allied Health Community - Guidelines International Network (G-I-N).” Health Expectations 2015 (18): 1543-1558.

Dwamena, F., et al. “Interventions for providers to promote a patient-centred approach in clinical consultations.” Cochrane Database System Review 2012 (12).

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[1] Maria J. Santana, “How to practice person-centred care: A conceptual framework,” Health Expectations 2018 (21): 430; “What is person-centred care and why is it important?” Health Innovation Network South London, accessed January 15, 2019, https://healthinnovationnetwork.com/system/ckeditor_assets/attachments/41/what_is_person-centred_care_and_why_is_it_important.pdf
[2] Santana, “How to practice person-centred care,” 429.
[3] E. Balint, “The possibilities of patient-centered medicine,” J R Coll Gen Pract. 1969 (17): 269‐276.
[4] Santana, “How to practice person-centred care,” 430.
[5] Marie-Eve Poitras, et al. “What are the effective elements in patient-centered and multimorbidity care? A scoping review,” BMC Health Services Research 2018 (18): 2; F. Dwamena, “Interventions for providers to promote a patient-centred approach in clinical consultations,” Cochrane Database System Review 2012 (12); Simone A. Dulmen, et al. “Supporting a person-centred approach in clinical guidelines. A position paper of the Allied Health Community - Guidelines International Network (G-I-N),” Health Expectations 2015 (18): 1543; Junietta Baker McCall, A Practical Guide to Hospital Ministry: Healing Ways (New York: The Haworth Pastoral Press, 2002), 16.
[6] Matthew Low, “A novel clinical framework: The use of dispositions in clinical practice. A person centred approach,” Journal of Evaluation in Clinical Practice 2017(23): 1062.
[7] Carl R. Rogers, Client-Centered Therapy (London: Constable, 2003), 20.
[8] Low, “A novel clinical framework,” 1062.
[9] Santana, “How to practice person-centred care,” 433; “What is person-centred care and why is it important?”
[10] “What is person-centred care and why is it important?”
[11] McCall, A Practical Guide to Hospital Ministry, 17.
[12] “What is person-centred care and why is it important?”; Santana, “How to practice person-centred care,” 434; Dulmen, et al. “Supporting a person-centred approach in clinical guidelines,”: 1544.
[13] Tim Slade et al. The Mental Health of Australians 2: Report on the 2007 National Survey of Mental Health and Wellbeing (Canberra: Commonwealth of Australia, 2009), xii.
[14] Michael L. Kirkindoll, The Hospital Visit (Nashville: Abingdon Press, 2001), 12.
[15] Mark Cobb, The Hospital Chaplain’s Handbook: A Guide for Good Practice (Norwich: Canterbury Press, 2005), 65.
[16] Neville A. Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals (Harrisburg: Morehouse, 2005), 19.
[17] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 14-15.
[18] Kirkindoll, The Hospital Visit, 25.
[19] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 15.
[20] Kirkindoll, The Hospital Visit, 24-25.
[21] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 16.
[22] Mal McKissock, and Dianne McKissock. Coping with Grief (Sydney: ABC Books, 2012), 12; J. William Worden, Grief Counselling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner (London: Routledge, 2009), 91.
[23] P. Kinsella, What Are the Barriers in Relation to Person-centred Planning? (London: Joseph Rowntree Foundation, 2000).; J. Mansell and J. Beadle-Brown, “Person-centred planning and person-centred action: a critical perspective,” in Person-centred Planning and Care Management with People with Learning Disabilities, ed. P. Cambridge and S. Carnaby (London: Jessica Kingsley, 2005); J. Thompson, et al. Person-centred Practice for Professionals (Maidenhead: Open University Press, 2008).
[24] Santana, “How to practice person-centred care,” 434.
[25] Carl R. Rogers, On Becoming a Person: A therapist’s view of psychotherapy (Croydon: Robinson, 2016), 11-12.
[26] Rogers, On Becoming a Person, 26.
[27] Ibid., 35.
[28] Rogers, Client-Centered Therapy, 28.
[29] “Carl Rogers and the Person-Centered Approach,” Carl Rogers, accessed December 19, 2018, http://www.psychotherapy.net.proxy1.athensams.net/stream/morling/video?vid=274
[30] Rogers, Client-Centered Therapy, 28.
[31] Ibid., 42.
[32] Isabel Gibbard, “Brief person-centred counselling,” Healthcare Counselling & Psychotherapy Journal 2009 (9): 4-7.
[33] “Carl Rogers and the Person-Centered Approach”
[34] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 8.
[35] Ibid., 17-18.
[36] Kirkindoll, The Hospital Visit, 16-17.
[37] Gibbard, “Brief person-centred counselling,” 4-7.
[38] Kirkindoll, The Hospital Visit, 40.
[39] Ibid., 41.
[40] Ibid., 44.
[41] Rogers, On Becoming a Person, 16-17.
[42] Ibid., 21.
[43] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 5.
[44] Ibid., 272.
[45] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 273.
[46] Anne Markwick, “Person-centred planning and the recovery approach,” Learning Disability Practice 2013 (16): 34.
[47] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 257.
[48] Ibid., 3.
[49] Ibid., xi.
[50] Ibid., 258.
[51] Ibid., 4.
[52] “Person Centred planning with children and young people: The Tower Hamlets model,” Tower Hamlets, accessed January 15, 2019, https://www.towerhamlets.gov.uk/Documents/Children-and-families-services/Early-Years/TH_PCP_Model.pdf
[53] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 259.
[54] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 261.
[55] J. William Worden, Grief Counselling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner (London: Routledge, 2009), 252.
[56] Worden, Grief Counselling and Grief Therapy, 253.
[57] Ibid., 254.
[58] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 7-8.
[59] Ibid., 9.
[60] Worden, Grief Counselling and Grief Therapy, 256.
[61] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 268.
[62] Martha R. Jacobs, “Creating Personal Theology to Do Spiritual / Pastoral Care,” in Theology of Spiritual / Pastoral Care, ed. Rabbi Stephen B. Roberts (Woodstock: SkyLight Paths Publishing, 2013), 7. As Jacobs puts it, “It is not about me and what I believed; it was about them and what their belief system was and who God was for them.”
[63] Jacobs, “Creating Personal Theology to Do Spiritual / Pastoral Care,” 11.
[64] Ibid., 9.
[65] Kirkwood, Pastoral Care in Hospitals, 268.
[66] Ibid., 286.

Friday, 19 April 2019

The seven "I AM"


During my visit to Taiwan in February, I went into an art exhibition in Taipei with the artwork “Who are you?” That piece of work left a significant impression in my mind. Around that time, I heard a sermon where the speaker said, “at the same time as asking God the question “who am I?” we should also be asking God “who are You?””


The WSCCC CP10 church had a series of seven “I AM” sermons from the book of John between March and April. 
According to John’s Gospel, “I AM”:
1.       The Word who became flesh (John 1:1-14)
2.       The bread of life (John 6:35)
3.       The light of the world (John 8:12; 9:5)
4.       The gate/ Good Shepherd (John 10:1-21)
5.       The resurrection and the life (John 11:25)
6.       The way, truth and life (John 14:1-14)
7.       The true vine (John 15:1-8)


Rev Chadd Hafer reminds us not just know these things, but to think about how we are to respond as we realise who Jesus is.

On Good Friday, the sermon is on the seven paradoxes of Easter.

1.       The good shepherd becomes the Passover Lamb. (John 10:11; John 1:29; Isaiah 53:7)
2.       The light of the world was arrested, betrayed, tried and died in darkness. Everything happened before the rooster crows. (John 1:5; John 13:30; John 18:3)
3.       What is truth? The truth was falsely tried and convicted. (John 19:37-38)
4.       God's only son replaces ‘a son of the Father’ Barabbas. Release Jesus or Barabbas? The name Barabbas in Hebrew means ‘a son of the Father,’ a religious name. Jesus is taking the place of God's guilty children. (John 18:40)
5.       Jesus the living water thirsts: to fulfil the Scripture (Psalm 22). He said “I thirst” in the middle of the crucifixion (John 19:28).
6.       ‘The resurrection and the life’ dies. “It is finished!” And bowing his head, he gave up his Spirit. (John 19:30)
7.       The Bread of Life and the True Vine. Jesus broke the bread as his body (Matthew 26:26). The first miracle is Jesus turning water into wine (John 2:1-11). The guards pierced Jesus’ side and water came out. (John 19:33-37)


(As an aside, Mona Lisa Florist and Café, which is close to the church, has some pretty reasonably priced coffee and flowers!)




Sunday, 7 April 2019

Christ Church Lavender Bay




24March, 2019

Visited Christ Church Lavender Bay for the first time today. This is the church I will be getting married at later this year. Coincidentally bumped into the person who reformed Australia’s gun laws in 1996! Many associations quickly popped into my mind because the Christchurch massacre had only happened about a week prior, and Christchurch was the place where my fiancé did most of his secondary schoolings.

"With God all things are possible."
The speaker in chaplain CD we were listening to in the car said this on the way to the church. Then we read this verse in the bible reading in the church. Then the preacher said this again in his preaching!













6April, 2019

Got invited to “the Gathering,” a monthly outreach at Christ Church Lavender Bay, by Rev. Edwards from Christ Church Lavender Bay, who will be our marriage celebrant. Bumped into another sister from my fiancé’s church who got married in this church. What an coincidence. This gathering is quite a pleasant gathering to bring non-believer friends to, as the atmosphere is pretty relaxed.


7April, 2019

The adventure is about to begin!

A huge “shipwreck” photo was the first thing I saw as soon as we stepped into the office of Rev. Edwards at Christ Church Lavender Bay on Sunday to fill out the notice of intended marriage! Turns out it wasn’t a shipwreck, but a sailing race. There was also a life saving buoy on the wall. Turns out Rev. Edwards used to work as a sailor! This inevitably made me think of the “City of Sails,” Auckland, where I lived during secondary school.

The following day, I got notified that the clinic I am working in will be closed for renovation in late May/early June, so I will be jobless for a week or two. This made me thought about a medical short missions opportunity I heard about earlier in the year. There was no quota for my fiancé, so I told God I won’t apply for this trip unless something unusual happens. I guess something has happened, and when I enquired with the organisation again, they still have one quota left for a medical doctor. Looks like this adventure is destined to happen this year!